| How crazy was THAT suggestion? Yup, a friend | | | | personalities...yup, they all can be lumped into that |
| suggest I submit my "profile" to an online dating | | | | group. This particular person took great pride in |
| service, you know the drill...well, if you don't, it's | | | | meeting women and then humiliating them by saying |
| worth a try. I am so glad I did...even if there were | | | | they did not look at all like their pictures, I often |
| some interesting complications before I met a Prince | | | | wonder, did the women ever say the same thing to |
| of a Man. | | | | him? |
| My first foray into the world of internet dating was a | | | | TIP NUMBER FOUR: If you get the feeling that |
| lark. What did I have to lose? Besides I had a bet | | | | there's bad "juju" in the air, trust it. Too many |
| going. ..a bet I couldn't pass up. So, I spent some | | | | women make excuses about the character and |
| time, composed my profile, dug up a picture and | | | | quality of the man, but once they look back there |
| posted my "profile." | | | | were red flags all over the place. He specialized in |
| What an interesting group of men responded. | | | | talking about himself, if I happened to mention an |
| Luckily, and this is TIP NUMBER ONE: put in a fake | | | | interest of mine....there was silence until I finished, and |
| city...that way you have some choice whether or not | | | | then he begin talking once again about his favorite |
| to even meet "the guy." It becomes pretty clear at | | | | subject : HIM . |
| once what kind of men you are dealing with. The | | | | TIP NUMBER FIVE: If he can regale you with tales of |
| one's who are a "legend in their own minds", the | | | | his conquests, tales of how the longest relationship |
| one's who don't know how to speil, the one's who | | | | he ever had as a widower/divorcee was less than 6 |
| are so crude that they make you giggle behind the | | | | months, run for the hills. And remember, the story will |
| scene. You can sort out alot just from the "git go". | | | | be all about how the woman was just "not up to his |
| TIP NUMBER TWO: Never believe the pictures. My | | | | standards" ....He likes the challenge of conquest, but |
| first go around was with a man who presented | | | | has no sense of staying power, commitment, or |
| himself as highly educated, he was, sensitive, he | | | | really having an authentic relationship. |
| wasn't, and in great physical shape...oh, don't get me | | | | The good news after that first debacle, I was |
| going. Yes, his picture was gorgeous....flowing silver | | | | encouraged by my best friend to try again. This time |
| fox hair, trim a and fit body, tuxedo, former college | | | | "the gold ring" A man who is brilliant, successful, not |
| athlete, spiritual, sensitive...well, I didn't have a coach | | | | "full of himself", truly good looking (even better then |
| so of course, i believed the photo and the "line."...well, | | | | his picture...still had the same athletic build he had as a |
| that picture was taken at a better time in his life...and | | | | college athlete)....history of a long, healthy, and stable |
| his self description? Let's say it must have been a | | | | relationship. Interested in someone other than himself, |
| twin in a past life. But, hey, I hadn't "dated" in many, | | | | and yes, a respect for women, the process, and |
| many years and this guy was smooth....I bit, took the | | | | dignity. |
| line, but had the sense to bail out after a couple of | | | | So, widows, never give up...just be smart...there is a |
| months... | | | | life beyond widowhood...you just need to reach out, |
| TIP NUMBER THREE: Find out how long they have | | | | get help, and realize you might meet alot of frogs |
| belonged to the dating service. I found that serial on | | | | before you meet a prince.... |
| line daters are a genre unto themselves. Fear of | | | | Sometimes the frogs make the most entertaining |
| commitment, ego strokes, narcissistic | | | | stories...well, off to enjoy more time with my Prince. |