| You and the person you are dating have really stated | | | | ex. |
| to get comfortable with each other. Slowly but surely | | | | 2. That Could Be Them |
| you are sharing more details of your life. Neither of | | | | Yes that thought can easily creep into their mind. |
| you have been scared off yet, so you take that as | | | | There is no guarantee that you two are going to |
| a good sign. | | | | stay together. So if things do not work out are you |
| Then in the midst of one of those wonderful evening | | | | going to go around trashing them? They may think |
| the conversation turns to people you have previously | | | | that it's better to end the relationship now so they |
| gone out with. Your date goes first and mentions a | | | | do not provide you with any more ammunition than |
| couple of people. Their assessment is for the most | | | | you already have. |
| part is fair and balanced. They talk about the good | | | | 3. No Control |
| and bad in a calm rational manner. Too bad the same | | | | Watching you work yourself into a rage may open |
| cannot be said for you. When it gets to be your | | | | some doors of thought that were previously locked. |
| turn, you go off. You rip into your ex like there is no | | | | For instance your date may figure if talking about |
| tomorrow. They were this that and the other thing; | | | | your ex can cause you to lose control, then what |
| none of it good. Your ex was hateful, spiteful, | | | | else is lurking in the shadows? Are you a control |
| deceitful and then you really said how you felt. | | | | freak, a verbal abuser or do you like to get physical |
| And no during the middle of your tirade you did not | | | | when things do not go your way. That's not to say |
| imagine that funny look your date had on their face. | | | | that you are any of those things but seeing you |
| Nor did you imagine how after it was over a certain | | | | throw a fit about your ex can get your date to |
| coldness and distance started to creep into the | | | | thinking about things you definitely do not want them |
| current relationship. | | | | to think about. |
| Why is it not a good idea to trash your ex? | | | | Regardless of how rotten your ex was the best |
| 1. Bad Lighting | | | | thing you can do is keep it to yourself. If the subject |
| Going off regardless of what happened in your | | | | comes up stay calm and detached. Be truthful but |
| previous relationship only makes you look bad. Let's | | | | keep it as brief as possible and avoid descriptions |
| face it your date does not know your ex. They only | | | | that are too colorful. As much as possible, let the |
| have your word to go on. If all they hear is anger | | | | past remain where it is. |
| and bitterness that reflects on you more than your | | | | |