| If you've ever been set up by friends, you know | | | | when it's your best friend. Professional matchmakers |
| what it's like to be set up be an amateur | | | | don't have that same problem. That's not to say that |
| matchmaker. It's fair to say your friends know the | | | | when you're working with a professional matchmaker |
| type of person you want to date. It's fair to say | | | | you can't have the same kind of problem - not |
| some friends set their friends up with their perfect | | | | finding the right person immediately. But you have a |
| match and the relationship lasts and works. And if an | | | | much better chance. Wanna know why? |
| amateur can get a few matches right, just imagine | | | | Working with a Professional Matchmaker |
| what a professional matchmaker can do. | | | | Professional matchmakers are certified. They have |
| Working with an Amateur | | | | experience introducing people. They charge a lot of |
| All right, so it's different. It goes without saying that | | | | money, and they have the results on their side to |
| anytime you're working with an amateur, it's not the | | | | charge it. Professional matchmakers receive training |
| same as working with a professional. Professionals | | | | about how to match people. When they meet up |
| have qualifications. They have clients. And they have | | | | with you, they can immediately determine a number |
| experience. But what separates the amateur from | | | | of about the type of person you are based on: |
| the professional? Just think about it. Your brother or | | | | * How you introduce yourself |
| boyfriend (or sister, for that matter) might not be a | | | | * How you carry yourself |
| professional mechanic, but that doesn't mean they | | | | * Your clothing |
| don't have experience fixing and working on cars. | | | | * Your accessories |
| So what's the difference between an amateur | | | | * The way you talk |
| matchmaker and a professional matchmaker? Imagine | | | | As you continue talking, the professional matchmaker |
| this. You're at a party with your best friend. She's | | | | will continue to learn more about you and your |
| with her boyfriend and she introduces you to his | | | | interests. Then they can take this information and |
| single best friend. There, she's an amateur | | | | match you with people that have similar beliefs, |
| matchmaker. Imagine he's gorgeous. He's smart. He's | | | | values and goals as you. Professional matchmakers |
| intelligent. He's attentive. He spends time with you all | | | | typically have lots of clients. Some focus on local |
| night and then asks for your number. You give it to | | | | areas, but some have additional regional and national |
| him without hesitation. He's exactly your type. | | | | clients. What does this mean for you? |
| Three weeks later, you break up. The reason can be | | | | Professional matchmakers: |
| anything. You go back to your friend, tell her about it | | | | * Have lots of clients |
| and she thinks about setting you up with someone, | | | | * Perform background checks on all of their clients |
| but doesn't know anyone she thinks you'll like who | | | | * Talk to you about what you liked and disliked |
| will also like you. She begs off, but promises to keep | | | | about each person you date |
| her eyes open. A year later, she still hasn't done | | | | * Keep your preferences in mind |
| anything towards making you less single. | | | | * Match you on compatibility and several personality |
| The first problem with working with an amateur | | | | factors, not just what you think you want |
| matchmaker is limited choices. As a rule, amateur | | | | * Have lots of clients to choose from |
| matchmakers: | | | | When you pay for a professional matchmaker, you're |
| * Can only set you up with a limited number of | | | | getting what you pay for. You can ask your brother |
| people | | | | the amateur mechanic to change your oil and your |
| * Only set you up with people they think you'll like | | | | break-pads, but what about re-building your engine? |
| * Only set you up with people they like | | | | If he's just tolled around a little bit, you'll probably go |
| * Don't know what to look for | | | | somewhere else. And why should your relationships |
| That's right. They don't know what to look for, even | | | | be any different? |