| Affairs are becoming increasingly more public events, | | | | - If you are looking for a man who is in shape, what |
| though I doubt they are more common than they | | | | kind of shape are you in? Or are you looking for a |
| used to be. We just hear more about them in a | | | | relationship in which health and fitness are important |
| much more public way than we have in the past. If | | | | values? |
| you are a Single woman, you may be worried about | | | | - If you are looking for a spiritual man, what are your |
| being cheated on by the man you choose. You may | | | | spiritual values? Or are you seeking a relationship in |
| be wondering how you can affair-proof your | | | | which spirituality is an important part of everyday |
| relationship before you even find the one for you. | | | | life? |
| You may ask yourself "How do I choose a man of | | | | - If you are looking for a man who is honest, what |
| good character to spend my life with? This is an | | | | does that mean? Are you looking for brutal honesty |
| excellent question to start with. I always ask this | | | | or a softer version of honesty? Are you brutally |
| question of my new clients: "Do you have a written | | | | honest yourself? What level of honesty do you want |
| list of your requirements for a successful | | | | in your relationship? |
| relationship?" Too often they respond with an | | | | - If you are looking for a man who is financially |
| enthusiastic "Yes!" then proceed to give me their | | | | responsible yet you spend like there is no tomorrow, |
| laundry list of the perfect man. | | | | how is that going to work? If you want financial |
| That is not what I asked. If you are only focused on | | | | responsibility to be part of your relationship, what do |
| the qualities you want in a man, you're missing the | | | | you do that makes you financially responsible? |
| point. It is critical that you focus on what you must | | | | As you can see, the values you hold are the values |
| see happen in a relationship, that is, your Relationship | | | | you want in your relationship. If you only look at the |
| Requirements, so that you can make the best choice | | | | characteristics of your ideal man, you are not looking |
| when deciding on a mate. | | | | at the whole picture. Take time to assess your |
| If you have a list of characteristics that you want in | | | | values so that you are able to create your ideal |
| a man, go through it with a magnifying glass. If you | | | | relationship. Working with a Relationship Coach can |
| were to turn it around, would you be that person? | | | | help you gain a crystal clear vision of your |
| Be honest with yourself. | | | | Relationship Requirements. |