| Surely the most common phrase in conventional | | | | odd socks, you will lose her very quickly, or you will |
| dating advice these days is "be yourself". Any guy | | | | simply become friends; a frustrating scenario that |
| has heard it hundreds of times. Yet, as any man | | | | many, many men have visited after 'being |
| who's been on a failed date after simply 'being | | | | themselves'. It also doesn't mean that you should |
| himself' knows, it isn't quite that simple. Indeed, the | | | | present yourself in your everyday state - and by |
| very concept of being yourself is a gross | | | | present I don't mean how you dress, but rather how |
| simplification. The reality is that, it doesn't matter | | | | you act. Everyone, even the most glamorous |
| how many dates you go on, you will only get the | | | | supermodel, is in a mundane state when they're |
| results you desire if you learn what this actually | | | | home alone, for instance. But they don't present |
| means. | | | | themselves like that publicly. Similarly, you must learn |
| In society today, we're constantly being socialized by | | | | that 'being yourself' doesn't mean you have to |
| everything around us. TV, magazines, radio shows, | | | | present your most 'normal' state all the time. |
| books, just to name a few of the sources that help | | | | Instead, you must learn that this actually gives you |
| build our perception of what we, as individuals, ought | | | | some creative license. Everyone has different sides |
| to be doing. Sadly, unlike on TV, the nervous nerdy | | | | to themselves - the serious side, the professional |
| guy usually can't take the girl out for dinner, be | | | | side, the caring side...the fun side. Present the fun side |
| himself, and win her heart. Yet, the very concept of | | | | of yourself, & show that you know how to have a |
| 'being yourself' when taking someone out, is force | | | | good time. Be playful, relax, and crucially, be happy |
| fed to us almost constantly. Unconvinced? Flick open | | | | and confident about who you are. Women are |
| any male magazine, and somewhere will likely be a | | | | extremely intuitive, and if you act in a way that is |
| piece where a woman will be giving 'top' dating advice | | | | happy and relaxed, women will instinctively pick up on |
| to guys on "being yourself". | | | | this. Are you still being yourself? Sure. You're |
| How can all these women be wrong? Well, they're | | | | presenting a part of yourself; the happy, playful fun |
| not, but they're not being clear what they really | | | | side of yourself. Just like if you went to a job |
| mean! The key to this is understanding that what | | | | interview, you'd want to present yourself in the best |
| women say they want, often diverges from what | | | | possible light, in a similar fashion, you want to put |
| they really mean, sometimes at a very fundamental | | | | forward the best possible side of yourself. As the |
| level. And lets face it, "be yourself" a pretty | | | | lyric goes, girls just wanna have fun, so show them |
| ambiguous statement! When a woman says 'you | | | | that you know how to have some. |
| should just be yourself', what they really mean is; | | | | So, the next time you hear the advice "just be |
| they want someone who is confident and happy with | | | | yourself", go right ahead. But be the part of yourself |
| themselves. | | | | that's relaxed, fun, and happy with who you are, |
| When a woman tells you 'just be yourself', it doesn't | | | | because this is a very simple step in understanding, |
| actually mean to act how you normally would with | | | | that will help you attract women and increase your |
| your friends - if you start talking about your | | | | dating success. |
| Warhammer 40,000 collection or your obsession with | | | | |