| Let's start at the beginning - you can't have a | | | | buddy there watching is sufficient motivation to get |
| successful date if you can't ask her out! That's why | | | | out there and meet women. |
| it's absolutely crucial that you overcome your | | | | If you're still holding back, though, even with your |
| approach anxiety. | | | | wingman watching, try this: hand him $100 in tens or |
| People who study interpersonal relationships are | | | | twenties. You get the money back - in chunks of $10 |
| studying this, trying to see if there's a way to | | | | or $20, every time you approach a woman and |
| overcome approach anxiety. Some people think that | | | | actually talk with her. You have to talk beforehand to |
| approach anxiety is hardwired into our genetic | | | | determine how much he gives you back each time, |
| makeup. Approach anxiety can be overcome, insist | | | | and if you get more for a longer talk. If you don't go |
| others. | | | | out and meet women, then, you're going to go home |
| These are a couple of approaches that men have | | | | broke! |
| found useful in overcoming approach anxiety: | | | | Let's be frank, though. These are just two ways of |
| 3 Seconds to overcoming Approach Anxiety | | | | dealing with the problem. Using these approaches |
| It's easy to put this approach to work. The | | | | doesn't end that anxious feeling you get when you |
| underlying assumption is this: the more you ponder | | | | try to approach a woman, it just helps overcome it |
| whether or not to approach a woman, or how to, | | | | for the night. Approach anxiety can be eliminated |
| the more uncertain you become about it and the | | | | from your makeup entirely, but doing that will mean |
| more unlikely it is you'll ever talk to her. To overcome | | | | getting down to the root cause of the problem. |
| this, act quickly - don't give the anxiety any time to | | | | Some people think that approach anxiety is genetic, |
| develop! Within 3 seconds of seeing a woman you | | | | that it's hardwired into some our DNA. I disagree with |
| want to meet, approach her. To be effective, you've | | | | that; I think it is something that we pick up and learn |
| got to commit to doing this all the time. If you start | | | | based on our experiences in life. |
| making excuses or exceptions, though, you'll wrap | | | | When you consider it from an truly analytical |
| yourself up in them and never meet exciting women! | | | | perspective, it's reasonable to conclude that the |
| Now, there are going to be circumstances when it | | | | problem underlying it all is shame. |
| really won't make sense to follow the 3-second rule, | | | | Simply put, when you're experiencing approach |
| for example she's sitting in a restaurant booth with | | | | anxiety, what you're really feeling at some level is |
| romantic lighting with a boyfriend or husband. But if | | | | shame. Maybe you're uncomfortable with yourself - a |
| you're in a club, at the beach, in the park, in a | | | | good enough reason to be reluctant to bring |
| grocery store, or nearly any other situation where | | | | someone into your life. Maybe you think you shouldn't |
| you can talk out loud, go for it! | | | | be talking with a beautiful woman. Who knows? |
| Cold Cash Can Defeat Approach Anxiety | | | | Everyone's situation is unique, and I don't want to |
| A wingman is necessary to this approach, but it's | | | | paint everyone with a broad brush. |
| remarkably successful. For some guys, just having a | | | | |