| Tell me if this sounds familiar. | | | | your name?" "where do you live?" "what do you do |
| You see a girl you find attractive, and you walk up | | | | for work?" Blah, blah, blah. |
| to her and get a conversation started. | | | | Now, these aren't bad questions - after all, you'll need |
| Things seem to be going great. She's responding well | | | | this information at some point - but you can't rely on |
| to you, but then, all of a sudden, something happens... | | | | questions like these to keep an initial conversation |
| You run out of stuff to say! | | | | healthy! |
| And the awkward pause ensues. And before you | | | | Instead, you have to ask fun, interesting questions |
| know it, the girl excuses herself and moves on. | | | | that will actually engage the girl, and make her want |
| Let me tell you - this type of thing happens ALL THE | | | | to keep talking to you. For example, instead of |
| TIME. | | | | asking her what she does, ask something like... |
| And it typically happens because most guys just | | | | "Hey, do you work with kids by any chance? You |
| don't know how to talk to girls! They may have their | | | | have that really loving kindergarten teacher vibe to |
| first couple of lines ready to go to get the | | | | you. I bet you love small animals too." |
| conversation started, but after that, they are just | | | | In that example, we asked her a number of |
| "winging it." | | | | questions, but we did so in an interesting way. We |
| But all too often, when it gets to the point where | | | | asked her what her job was - but we took a guess |
| they have to talk to the girl, and they don't have | | | | that it had to do with kids. Whether we were right |
| anything already thought out, their bran STALLS, and | | | | or not is irrelevant. Either way, she'll let us know |
| the conversation dies a slow and painful death. | | | | what she does. |
| Not too many people realize that there is an art to | | | | We also asked her if she liked kids, without coming |
| conversation. Getting it started is one thing, but | | | | out and saying it. We also asked her if she liked |
| keeping it going is quite another all together. | | | | animals, without being obvious. |
| If you have ever been in a situation where your | | | | Finally, we pointed out a "feeling" she gave us. This |
| conversation with a girl has gone south before you | | | | can lead us into a conversation about HER. |
| could get her phone number, you know what I am | | | | And this is the real key in talking to girls - make the |
| talking about. | | | | conversation about HER. That isn't to say you should |
| So then, how does one keep the conversation from | | | | never talk about yourself, but when you keep the |
| faltering? Surprisingly, once you realize a few things | | | | conversation focused on her, she will get the feeling |
| it's pretty simple. | | | | that you're actually INTERESTED in her. |
| First of all, understand that questions are the building | | | | And of course, women love to talk about |
| blocks of conversations. Every question you ask a girl | | | | themselves. |
| leads to a new and exciting part of the interaction. | | | | By asking the right questions, you can focus on her. |
| The problem is that most guys ask the WRONG | | | | Find out who she really is, and the conversation will |
| questions. | | | | keep going in the right direction. |
| They ask your typical "boring" questions like "what's | | | | |