| Today I want to share with everyone a great | | | | bumping into me all night. What, do you play rugby or |
| question I got from someone in London. I'm sure all | | | | something?" |
| of you think about these same things when you go | | | | So there you go - you're being fun, playful, and |
| out at night too, so let's talk about this right now! | | | | you're being DIFFERENT! |
| Client: First of all, I have to commend you on the | | | | Now, you know my approach for texting, right? I |
| Men's Audio Mastery Series - it's one of the best | | | | think I put the texting at night approach on the |
| audio series I have ever heard. | | | | Mastery Series, but I'm not sure. So I'll outline it here: |
| I also have two questions for you. You said that | | | | You basically walk up to a woman who has been |
| when you open someone in a bar, you want to ask | | | | hanging out with her friends. You have your buddy |
| the women for their opinion on something. | | | | text you, but make sure his name is not in there. |
| In the field in London, a lot of routine-based games | | | | Have him text you this: "last night was great. Maybe |
| use the opinion opener to open women. If you use | | | | another drink later tonight?" |
| the opinion opener and the girl has had many people | | | | And so you walk over to a woman and you say to |
| open them with that previously wouldn't she think, oh | | | | her, "look, I just got this text, and I have absolutely |
| boy, here we go again or might they not think of | | | | no idea what it means. No idea. But before I show |
| that at all? | | | | you the text on my phone, I need to give you a little |
| Also another question: if you are conversing with a | | | | bit of a back-story." |
| woman and you find yourself at a lull in the | | | | Keep going: "last night I went out with this woman |
| conversation without anything to say, could you go | | | | for a drink. We had a glass of wine, hung out for an |
| back to a previous thing she said earlier in the | | | | hour and a half, and that was it. I didn't think there |
| conversation to start a new conversation with her? | | | | was any chemistry, and I had no idea what she felt. I |
| David: Hey, great to hear from you. I will be in | | | | didn't even think much of anything about it, but I just |
| London doing a boot camp in September, which is | | | | got this text from her right now. What does it |
| posted on my website. It'd be great to work with | | | | mean?" |
| you in person. Let me know if you have any interest. | | | | So then they will pass your phone around, and they |
| If not, I'll be doing some private coaching as well, if | | | | will start to laugh. They'll start to smile. One of them |
| you can't commit to the whole weekend. I'll be doing | | | | will say, "booty call!" You can then say, "aha, is that |
| some private coaching on the days in London also. | | | | what you call a booty call?" And then you get the |
| As for your e-mail, there are a lot of different opinion | | | | conversation rolling from there. |
| openers. The great thing about what I teach is that | | | | There are just a few of new tips for you. |
| everything is not the same. | | | | Now, if the conversation starts to get slow, what |
| For instance, when I was in London last time, I was | | | | you have to realize in your mind is that not everyone |
| at the Sanderson Hotel, and I was working with a | | | | you talk to you will be able to connect with. The |
| client of mine. This woman was staring at us, so I | | | | problem with men is that they think that just |
| told my client to walk over and do this: walk right | | | | because they have the guts to approach a woman, |
| over to her and say, "hey, are you just going to | | | | every conversation has to work out. Some |
| stare at me all night and check me out, or are you | | | | conversations just don't work out. |
| going to come over here and talk to me?" | | | | Think about in terms of soccer. The guy has an open |
| Do this, I told him, and do it with a big smile. Then all | | | | shot, right? A penalty shot. He takes ten penalty |
| of a sudden she'll start laughing; she'll say something | | | | shots. Does he make every penalty shot? Absolutely |
| to excuse herself. Before she explains and babbles, | | | | not. If the odds were ten for ten, there would be no |
| you can look at her and ask, "do you have approach | | | | such thing as a hard penalty shot or an easy penalty |
| anxiety?" | | | | shot, right? |
| Say, "I hear there are some great books on the | | | | So, sometimes the conversation just dies. You have |
| Internet that'll help you overcome that!" Laugh. Say all | | | | no chemistry with her at all, so it doesn't matter. If |
| this with a smile. She will inevitably start laughing really | | | | you follow the things that I teach - meaning you |
| hard, and then you can tease her a little more. | | | | listen very carefully to what she is saying - you will |
| Ask her, "are you shy?" And she will respond, "well, | | | | be able to tell. |
| you know..." and then you can start talking about it a | | | | You should use portal words, which means that if she |
| little bit. And you'll have things to talk about. It will be | | | | says, "oh this weekend is so fantastic, it's my |
| a fun game to do at night. | | | | grandmother's birthday," you can ask, "really, how old |
| When you're at the bar at night, you need to make | | | | will your grandmother be?" She might respond, "my |
| it fun. You need to make it interesting. You need to | | | | grandmother will be 92." You can then look at her |
| make it different. That's why I like day game much | | | | and say, "congratulations, what's her secret?" |
| better than night game. Because night game, you | | | | If you listen very carefully to what a woman says, |
| need to play around a little bit more. | | | | and you transition using the emotional portal words |
| Another way to open up a woman in a bar at night is | | | | that I talk about, you will become a much better |
| when she bumps into you. You can say to her, | | | | conversationalist in the long run. |
| "excuse me." She will ask you, "what?" You can then | | | | Don't ever worry about what other people have |
| say, "I need to know your name." And then she will | | | | done going out. Most people are not going out using |
| respond, "my name is Amy." | | | | the things that I have used. I've been in London |
| "All right, Amy, I just need to know because if | | | | coaching guys for a long time, and let me tell you: my |
| tomorrow I wake up all bruised from you bouncing | | | | stuff is different, as you know, than most other |
| into me all night, I need to be able to tell my buddy | | | | garbage that is out there. Most of the stuff is pick-up |
| that I was in this bar last night and this girl Amy kept | | | | BS and that's it. |