| You have just signed up with a matchmaking agency | | | | besides talking. Now that is when your body language |
| and have been on a few dates recently. By right, | | | | will start to manifest itself be it positive or negative. |
| you should have a girlfriend and moving up with her | | | | Of course you can introduce yourself and tell her |
| to an intimacy level as what most couples do. You | | | | about what you do for a living, your hobbies and |
| know, developing chemistry, laughing, kissing and | | | | what you actually look for in your life partner. |
| hugging etc. | | | | But when it is her turn to talk, you need to listen |
| Unfortunately that is far from the truth. That is what | | | | attentively. As much as you want her to respond |
| you see other people doing but not yourself and the | | | | positively probably with a smile or even a laugh at |
| girl. And the reason is because despite being | | | | what you said, she will want you to do the same. So |
| introduced to several girls, you did not go on dates | | | | it is important to listen and not get distracted by |
| with all of them as some of them just dumped after | | | | other things. Even food! |
| seeing your actual looks. And the rest of those | | | | Speaking of food, some people just gobble |
| whom you managed to go on dates with, you ended | | | | everything like a pack of wolves instead of eating |
| up messing them up. | | | | and digesting slowly. I hate to mention this but if you |
| So what actually went wrong? What is the one thing | | | | are one of those, you need to change your public |
| that most loving couples do that you did not? If you | | | | eating manners. If you do not, you definitely won't in |
| have been asking yourself these questions, you are | | | | dating. There have been stories of girls walking out |
| not alone. There are many guys wondering the same | | | | on dates simply because they cannot stand men |
| way. | | | | eating as though they had not eaten for days. |
| The answer is very obvious. But even if you know, | | | | If you can, make her laugh. If you cannot think of |
| what's the point if you do not want to admit your | | | | any joke, go and read some books on how to make |
| mistake? After all, nobody likes to admit their | | | | women laugh or do some online research. Recent |
| mistakes right? If you do, I won't blame you. | | | | history shows that men who can make women laugh |
| Because I felt the same way too years ago. | | | | have a higher and better chance of developing their |
| Learning how to communicate has been the single | | | | dating further. |
| most important requirement of getting along with | | | | Last but not least, show her concern and respect her |
| people. Not just at home, schools and work but in | | | | whatever her decision may be. The truth is if you |
| dating as well. And it is not just greeting and asking | | | | truly love someone, you need to pay attention to |
| how the party is doing since everyone knows that. | | | | her needs and accept whatever she wants. For |
| I have a friend who is an actor and very successful | | | | instance, give her an extra napkin or tissue paper to |
| entrepreneur in network marketing business of | | | | wipe her mouth after eating. And if the girl wants to |
| healthcare products. He once told me that only | | | | pay for the meal instead of you paying as what |
| seventy percent of the communication is verbal. The | | | | everyone will said you should since you are, by all |
| rest is simply just body language. What he basically | | | | means let your ego go and allow her to do so. The |
| means is that if the other party has a negative | | | | same goes if she tells you that she has been seeing |
| impression of you in body language, he or she will be | | | | other guys and has not been able to decide which |
| not be interested in whatever things you want to | | | | one to be her boyfriend. |
| say. | | | | As David DeAngelo of Double Your Dating once |
| But if someone else comes along and approaches | | | | mentioned, attraction does not happen by logic. It |
| with the same topic, the other party will respond | | | | happens by choice. So whatever your family and |
| instantly and cheerfully. | | | | friends told you that does not tally with her |
| The point that I am trying to drive at is that body | | | | thoughts, you can simply throw it out of the window. |
| language plays an equally important role in | | | | Since you are dating her and not them, you need to |
| communication as to having good verbal skills. It took | | | | respect her decision. If you can do that, whether you |
| me a very long time to realize this since I am an | | | | eventually get accepted by her or not, you will still |
| introvert myself and do not like to talk to people | | | | leave a great impression. |
| initially. And when I finally opened up to people, I tend | | | | Not on her but on any girl that you will be dating in |
| to screw things up. | | | | the near future. |
| Now moving back to dating, you need to listen | | | | |