| If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then | | | | nice" to women. This usually includes being sweet and |
| you probably remember the part where the guys are | | | | complimentary when first meeting them, answering all |
| discussing how long a guy should wait to call a | | | | of their questions directly, and giving them what they |
| woman after he's gotten her phone number. | | | | want when they want it. |
| The scene really hits home for a lot of guys because | | | | But if you want a woman to feel that INSTANT |
| it gets down to a real-world situation that we all | | | | GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION right from the beginning, |
| confront and ponder. | | | | then you're going to have to put aside this kind of |
| The more I've thought about it, the more I realize | | | | thinking, and start learning some NEW ideas. |
| that this particular question (and the answer to it) are | | | | For instance: |
| part of a bigger, more important CONCEPT about | | | | 1) A challenge is generally attractive to women. |
| how to deal with women. | | | | 2) Teasing and being evasive is generally attractive |
| When a guy asks me "How long should I wait to call | | | | to women. |
| her?" this immediately tells me a few of things: | | | | 3) Making fun of a woman's appearance in a flirty |
| 1) The guy doesn't feel like he's in control of the | | | | way, as counter-intuitive as it might sound, can lead |
| situation. If he felt like he was in control, then it he | | | | to ATTRACTION. |
| wouldn't ask, because it wouldn't matter. | | | | I'm trying to communicate the idea that when you're |
| 2) The guy doesn't really "get" how male/female | | | | dealing with ATTRACTION, you have to put aside |
| attraction works. If he did get it, then he'd be | | | | old "normal" ways of thinking and behaving. |
| thinking in those terms rather than trying to figure | | | | I would like to mention one more point before |
| out the exact best amount of time to wait before | | | | getting into the specifics here... |
| calling. | | | | These days, people are becoming very sensitive to |
| To put it differently, the "when do I call her back?" | | | | having "techniques" used on them. |
| problem is part of a bigger concept, and once you | | | | If a salesman uses a sales technique on us, we |
| understand that bigger concept better, then you'll | | | | immediately get defensive and resistant. |
| have an automatic feel for when to call a woman | | | | If a panhandler asks for money in a way that smells |
| back. | | | | of "technique" we pass them by without pity. |
| Most guys don't "get" one simple point: | | | | If a business treats us like a "thing" or a number |
| If you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for | | | | instead of an individual person, we avoid them or buy |
| you, then you must behave differently than if you | | | | elsewhere. |
| want her to feel that "just friends" feeling. | | | | We humans don't like having manipulation techniques |
| In the world of ATTRACTION, things are completely | | | | used on us, and when we detect that someone or |
| different. | | | | something is using one to get the better of us, we |
| For instance, our moms taught all of us guys to "be | | | | resist. |