| I am no dating expert or guru, I am just an average | | | | need to do now is get attraction so lets talk about |
| every day guy living a regular existence who has | | | | how to do that on Facebook. |
| been able to transform his dating life and have a lot | | | | Introducing the SCAN method |
| of success meeting women. Over the past couple of | | | | Search is the first step in your quest to meeting an |
| years I have seen MySpace transform my own and | | | | attractive woman in your social circle. Now lets |
| many other people's social lives. Now Facebook has | | | | assume you have 100 friends on Facebook who all |
| produced an exceptionally great opportunity for any | | | | know around 20 that you don't know and that those |
| average guy to meet amazing women that they | | | | people know another 20 people that you don't know. |
| would have never had the chance to meet | | | | Applying the principle of the Six Degrees of |
| previously. | | | | Separation I am going to assume your social network |
| First I am going to tell you why Facebook presents | | | | goes five to six chains wide before you lose the |
| this exceptional opportunity for you and then I am | | | | connection. If you do the maths you will soon realize |
| going to tell you the how. It is important you do not | | | | you have more people than you think in your |
| skip this section because in this case understanding | | | | extended network. I find it best not to approach |
| the why may be just as if not more important than | | | | new women in my immediate social circle if I don't |
| the how. Given that over 60% of Facebook users | | | | know they are single because I do not want to |
| are women let me try and determine why this is the | | | | upset my social circle. |
| case and why it is critical for your to understand. | | | | So for example if I click on my friend John's profile |
| Why do women love social networking sites? Back in | | | | click view friends then find Sophie who is rather |
| the old days when we used to live in tribes of | | | | attract, then click view her friends this is the degree |
| around 100 people men used to be depended on for | | | | of separation I am looking for. Close enough to be in |
| the survival of their family. Women and their children | | | | touch and still have commonality yet not close |
| depended on their man to provide for and protect | | | | enough to upset any of males in my friend circle who |
| for them, without a man a woman and her family | | | | might be courting the attractive woman. This is |
| would usually die. There were no social services in | | | | important because you do not want men and |
| those days. Men developed a strongly independence | | | | women in your social circle working against you, you |
| as they had to depend on themselves for their own | | | | want them working on your side talking you up and |
| survival and the survival of their offspring. | | | | helping you out. |
| Men who were abundant in the wealth could provide | | | | Connect is the next step after you have found a |
| for their family and were seen as attractive as | | | | few women who are a friend of a friend then you |
| they're men who had great strength and fitness who | | | | want to contact them via the send message feature. |
| could protect their family. Men who had leadership | | | | Warning do not poke or add as a friend until after |
| and dominance were seen as attractive as they had | | | | you have connected with them. There is a big |
| the power to lead others and provide and protect | | | | difference between contacting a woman online and |
| their families thus men who also possessed these | | | | actually connecting with her. Does she respond to |
| skills also found it easy to attract a female partner. | | | | your message? When then you have made a |
| Women on the other hand had another set of | | | | connection. |
| qualities which they developed in order to increase | | | | I have noticed ever since I started spying on other |
| the likelihood of their survival and that of their family. | | | | guys that my "competition" typically do two things |
| This can be best described as having great | | | | wrong. They only write one or two lines and make it |
| communication skills. Women depended on keeping a | | | | generic and the woman does not respond because |
| great relationship with their man for their own | | | | the guy is a stranger and doesn't offer anything |
| survival as losing them would mean certain death. | | | | interesting about himself. Some guys make the |
| They also had to master the art of communication | | | | mistake off writing way to much which telegraphs |
| with their children and families. Over thousands of | | | | too much interest and turns the woman off. Each |
| years this characteristics have been hard wired into | | | | way can be like a cancer to your success meeting |
| our brains so that men and women will excel at | | | | women online. |
| certain skills. | | | | Here is a tip, write 8-12 lines or 2-3 paragraphs |
| Today women can provide for themselves, they can | | | | maximum, then I recommend you try and shorten it |
| easily get a job and by their own food and | | | | to 5-8 lines by cutting out the fluff and making your |
| resources, they are not dependent on men for | | | | words more powerful and more meaningful. You |
| survival. Today women's greatest skill is the one they | | | | want to make sure you include a call to action in |
| most need to learn if they want to survive in the | | | | every email you send out to a woman which leads to |
| modern world. Learning how to communicate | | | | you both taking the first step. Make sure you only |
| effectively is the key for men thriving and surviving | | | | take it one step at a time so as not to telegraph too |
| in the modern world. There is no point in owning a | | | | much interest or put too much pressure on the |
| billion dollar technology company or being the biggest, | | | | woman up front. The first call to action might simply |
| stronger guy in the gym if you can effectively | | | | be to mail you back, the second might be to ask for |
| communicate with a woman so that she stays | | | | her IM or phone number, the third might be to talk |
| around. Women do not have to wait around for men | | | | to her on the phone and the fourth to meet up with |
| these days so communication is critical to attracting | | | | her etc. |
| and keeping women. | | | | Attract is the next thing you need to ensure you are |
| Today people still live in tribes except they go under | | | | doing. Use emotional language in your writing too |
| a different name, they are called called social | | | | appeal to a woman, get her excited to respond to |
| networks today. Networks are a powerful influence | | | | her. Make sure you have a great headline to make |
| over our every day life, the biggest more powerful | | | | sure she responds to your email. It's not that hard |
| networks can control an entire city, country or even | | | | because most guys headlines are so bad, try using |
| an entire region. Advertising and media companies | | | | there name in the headline it will increase your |
| which now consist of a majority of female | | | | response dramatically. I have already talked about a |
| employees communicate with us on a daily basis | | | | few of the male fitness indicators in this article so |
| whether we want them to or not. Communication is | | | | now I want to think about how you can apply them |
| key to surviving and thriving in the modern era. | | | | to your profile. |
| In a nutshell what I teach men is the communication | | | | Negotiate is the next step, you need to negotiate |
| and attraction skills they need to know to build their | | | | talking on the phone and going on a date or to a |
| social network and attract more of the type of | | | | party together. You are the one who is responsible |
| women they want to meet. The great news is it can | | | | for this part of the proceedings, you are the man |
| be done very quickly even in a matter of days | | | | you need to take the lead. Make sure you already |
| sometimes as your success building a strong network | | | | have decided where you want to take her before |
| will often snowball into building up even more. | | | | you talk to her on the phone, make it casual and |
| Traditionally only the guys who women were | | | | relaxed so it appeals to her. She is single and looking |
| naturally attracted to at a young age or were | | | | to meet someone but she does not want a guy who |
| surrounded by women in high school developed the | | | | is all over her. You have got her interest and built |
| best communication skills and the biggest social | | | | some attraction so now you have to add some logic |
| networks. | | | | to give her a rationalization for meeting with you or |
| The reason why I endorse developing skills at | | | | getting physical with you. I am not saying you need |
| meeting women using social networking skills is that it | | | | to sell her on the idea, I am just saying you need to |
| is actually a whole lot easier. People who are in your | | | | state the next step so it makes sense in line with |
| social circle typically assume you are somewhat alike | | | | what she is already thinking. Trying saying something |
| as like minded people usually spend their time | | | | like "hey you seem like a pretty interesting person, |
| together. If you go to a party filled with millionaires | | | | lets meet at this party/coffee shop I am going to be |
| and beautiful women they are going to assume that | | | | at on friday night and see if we get along." |
| you are a millionaire who attracts beautiful women | | | | Facebook presents a great opportunity to meet a |
| even if you are flat broke. If you go to a party full | | | | ton of women with no fear of rejection if you follow |
| of poor arts students then they are going to assume | | | | these simple steps. With just under a million more |
| you are a poor arts student even if you are a | | | | women on Facebook than men in the United States |
| millionaire. This works to your advantage because | | | | alone and similar figures world wide this is truly a |
| there is already some assumed rapport there | | | | great opportunity for you to take advantage of. |
| because you are in the same social circle. All you | | | | |