| We all have desires, both men and women. BUT they | | | | says or does seriously, And SHE was the one who |
| are very different. | | | | wanted him because of this personality! |
| Most of our desires, personality and drives have been | | | | Don't get me wrong, men also have this dilemma as |
| pre-programmed into us at birth and through growing | | | | well but different ones. |
| up within what I call our own individual circle of | | | | An example of this could be that a man first thinks |
| influence from friends and family. | | | | what he wants is a beautiful women in his arms who |
| Women definitely have a few main needs, interests, | | | | he can make love to all night long, yet she can be |
| wants, and desires that need to be fulfilled when you | | | | the type that is easily strayed to other men and is |
| are talking about their perfect man and relationships. | | | | constantly on the search too even though she |
| If you look at the numerous on-line dating websites | | | | already has you. Now ask any man and that is a |
| which a women describes a partner she is striving to | | | | painful experience. Did he really desire this beautiful |
| look for pretty much all mention that they are looking | | | | woman in the first place, I doubt it. |
| for friendship, perfect soul mate, loyal and stable etc | | | | One funny one that I hear a lot of is when women |
| etc. Yet if you look at what all the men are looking | | | | complain, (OK not complain, if you're a woman |
| for in their on-line dating descriptions mentions nothing | | | | reading this), share their opinion with their girlfriends |
| of this sort and always inevitably focus on physical | | | | on their man who is glued to sports and always talk |
| looks and attractions. | | | | about sports. Yet what does sports give their man? |
| However, if you look into more detail you will find a | | | | The women was initially attracted to their man |
| conflict between a woman's ultimate desires and | | | | because of his masculinity and dominancy, and sports |
| what they describe. | | | | by nature fulfills a mans desire of competition, |
| For example, a woman may want a strong masculine | | | | dominancy of others, power, adrenaline, action and |
| and dominating man, yet once she has chosen and is | | | | adventure. |
| now with him, she may also want independence and | | | | Wasn't this all the traits that a women is attracted to |
| thus feel like she is stuck and wants freedom. | | | | their man in the first place. Now imagine their man |
| Another example maybe that a women maybe | | | | changes and becomes submissive and gentle, his |
| looking for a man who can make her laugh all the | | | | attraction to her would be lost almost immediately. |
| time, yet when she has now found this humorous | | | | She' be wondering why he has changed so much and |
| man, she feels that he never takes anything she | | | | why she has lost her attraction to him? |