| I was sitting down in a cafe with an old friend of | | | | out what she DOES want. |
| mine from high school, Becky. And we were talking | | | | Too often, women will focus in on the things that |
| about what it was like to be approaching the age of | | | | they do not want to find in a man, and lo and behold, |
| 30, and inevitably, the conversation of dating turned | | | | they end up attracting a guy that embodies all of the |
| up. Now, Becky knows that I have been a dating | | | | things that they do not want. Why not take the time |
| coach for awhile now, and she wanted to get a little | | | | and spend your energy figuring out what you DO |
| "inside" information on why she seems to find it so | | | | want to find in a man? If you could picture the right |
| hard to find the right guy. | | | | kind of guy, what would he look like? What would he |
| And as I looked at her, I could tell that it was eating | | | | be interested in? |
| her up inside. You know, she has a wonderful career, | | | | 2. I told her that she needed to head to the right |
| a great sense of humor and style, and she just does | | | | places to meet a guy. |
| not seem to be able to attract the right kind of guy. | | | | One of the things that quickly sprang up while we |
| One of the things that you have to know about | | | | were talking, was that she really did not go to the |
| attracting the right guy, is that you really can be a | | | | kinds of places that were conducive to finding the |
| good looking woman with a solid career and still not | | | | right guy. She was still hitting the kinds of bars and |
| have any success at all in the dating department, if | | | | clubs where guys that don't really have a whole lot |
| you don't focus on the right things. | | | | going for them choose to hang out. If you want to |
| Becky admitted that she was always attracted to | | | | find a better class of man, then you have to go |
| the "wrong" kinds of men, the ones that don't seem | | | | where they hang out. |
| to know where they are going in life, and the ones | | | | 3. She also kind of came across as being needy for a |
| that really don't seem to be able to handle a whole | | | | man. |
| lot of responsibility. | | | | What most women don't realize, is that guy that |
| Does this sound familiar to you at all? | | | | really have a lot going for them in life, guys that are |
| If you are a lot like Becky, and not attracting the | | | | ready for a healthy relationship, they don't want to |
| right kinds of guys, you always seem to attract the | | | | have a woman that is needy for them. While it is |
| "wrong" ones, then you really need to dig in and | | | | perfectly healthy to want to be in a relationship, to |
| make a few changes. | | | | be needy for one is a much different thing, |
| Here's what I recommended for her to do right | | | | altogether. You need to have a little bit of faith and |
| away: | | | | not cling to a man if you want to keep him. |
| 1. I told her that she should sit down and really figure | | | | |