| Everyone wants commitment. Even people who are | | | | members. They will be honest with you about their |
| afraid of it, want it deep down. There could be | | | | approval or disapproval of the dating relationship. |
| countless reasons why people avoid commitments in | | | | Don’t let pride stand in the way of hearing the |
| relationships; fear of rejection, fear of messing things | | | | feedback they give you. If everything they say is |
| up or even fear of being trapped. These fears keep | | | | positive then go for it. If it isn’t all positive listen |
| people from taking the big step of making a | | | | closely and see what areas of the dating relationship |
| commitment to dating relationships. Although some | | | | need improvement. Remember, a mature person can |
| people may say they’re not into commitment | | | | take negative feedback and allow it to drive them to |
| the truth is everyone wants to be the apple of | | | | change. |
| someone’s eye. Typically when someone says | | | | You Fight Well. |
| they don’t want commitment it is coming from | | | | If you haven’t had a disagreement with your |
| hurt and the fear of the hurt happening again. | | | | partner yet, you will. If you have, how did it go? |
| So the question remains, “how long should you | | | | Were you able to discuss things in a calm and |
| wait till you make a commitment?” Unfortunately | | | | constructive manner or was it explosive, hurtful and |
| there isn’t a straight forward answer to this | | | | regretful? When two people come together there will |
| question. Every person, dating relationship and | | | | always be room for misunderstandings and |
| circumstance is different so it’s impossible to | | | | disagreements so don’t be surprised when they |
| make a blanket statement. There are guidelines that | | | | arise. Its how they are handled that will make or |
| can help steer your dating relationship in the right | | | | break a dating relationship. |
| direction and provide guidance of when to make the | | | | If you’re ready to move out of the “more |
| step towards commitment. | | | | than friends” stage and into a mature, committed |
| You Both Know. | | | | dating relationship talk with your partner about your |
| If you both know you’re ready, then you | | | | thoughts and feelings. Get a vibe at where |
| probably are. Make sure you each talk about your | | | | they’re at and how they feel about it. If they |
| expectations and what commitment means to you. | | | | seem to be a bit stand offish you may end up having |
| What you mean by commitment may be very | | | | a different discussion at that point. If they’re |
| different then what your partner means by | | | | ready to commit to your dating relationship then take |
| commitment. By committing to one another be sure | | | | the next step and make it official. Tell your friends |
| you are both ready to stay committed and when in | | | | and family members and have them support you and |
| doubt the two of you talk about it. | | | | hold you accountable to the commitment you’ve |
| You Are Mature. | | | | made. Without accountability there’s no |
| The best way to know if your dating relationship is | | | | motivation for change. |
| mature is to ask your closest friends and family | | | | |