| "Love is a many-splendored thing; it's the April rose | | | | Is their something they do or a habit they have that |
| that only grows in the early spring". Sounds pretty | | | | sets your teeth on edge when anybody else does it? |
| corny right? You would never know by today's | | | | Can you live with it? One of the many mistakes |
| standards that this was a hit song for many years. | | | | people make in dating is the belief that these |
| Corny or not that is how love can affect the most | | | | idiosyncrasies do not matter because they will be |
| hard core individuals among us. And the number one | | | | able to mold the other person to become EXACTLY |
| way to find out about your April rose is through | | | | what they desire. In most cases that is nothing more |
| dating. | | | | than a pipe dream. Besides that, do you really want |
| Simply put you want to know if the other person is | | | | to go about changing the person that you say you |
| right for you. Unless the two of you have decided on | | | | are in love with? If you have done an honest |
| another course for your relationship, dating can be a | | | | assessment and came to the conclusion you can |
| great indicator whether or not you desire to share | | | | accept your partner, warts and all, then go for it. |
| your life with the other person and vice versa. No it | | | | And what about your partner? Do you do something |
| cannot guarantee one hundred percent compatibility, | | | | that irritates them? How do they handle it? Even if |
| probably because no such thing really exists. As the | | | | they wrap their criticism in gentle humor, it still means |
| great jazz trumpeter Miles Davis once said, "If you | | | | they are registering their disapproval. Chances are |
| agree with everything I say and do, then you must | | | | that when you get married that criticism will be less |
| be me." As you know many couples are at the | | | | kind. Are you okay with that? It is one thing to |
| extreme opposites when it comes to likes and | | | | criticize here and there but constant disparagement is |
| dislikes, yet they have a happy relationship that | | | | rough. It is a way to control the other person by |
| endures. Nobody goes into a serious commitment | | | | keeping them on the defensive and sowing the |
| expecting to break up after a couple weeks. | | | | seeds of self doubt. If you or your partner is on this |
| If you want to know if this person is THE ONE, then | | | | path, then both of you are going to be unpleasantly |
| you must ask yourself the following: "how do you | | | | surprised at the outcome. |
| really feel?" | | | | No one is perfect. We all have our good and bad |
| It is so easy for our emotions to get carried away | | | | points so the question you need to ask yourself is |
| from the tidal wave of romance. Everything feels | | | | can the two of you live with it? That means |
| great; everything the other person says and does is | | | | accepting each other without imposing conditions or |
| just wonderful. Not! And once the water recedes, | | | | expecting change (as we all know change has to |
| you are stuck with someone whom you suddenly | | | | come from within). If after the evaluation stage is |
| realize annoys the daylights out of you. Do not be | | | | over, the answer remains a strong and committed |
| afraid to put your emotions aside and do some cold | | | | yes, then go for it and enjoy your own |
| hard evaluation. | | | | many-splendored thing. |