Dating Over 40 - Advice For Women - He's Not "My" Type

Do you meet men, but none of them are right forI bring this up for any woman who:
you? Do the men you date have similar issues or1) Claims she doesn't meet men who she finds
patterns?interesting
This week I had a client who said she didn't meet2) Claims that the men she meets aren't her "type"
many men who interested her. As a Dating Coach,3) Claims that her type of man doesn't have similar
when women say this, I always ask if they have arelationship issues
"type." Dana denied it. "Nope, I don't have a type ofIf you have a "type" chances are strong that when
man. Well, maybe I just can't really describe him."you look back - your "type" may create the
So I asked more questions (what any good coachstrongest attraction for you, but not the strongest
does) Turns out Dana certainly does have a type.relationships.
Having grown up in the 60's, she likes liberal-heartedWhen a client calls me to say, "I'm dating a new guy
men.and he is SO different than most of the men I've
Next, I asked what she had discovered was thedated." I give a little cheer and feel highly optimistic.
problem with her type of guy. Once again, DanaMore often than not, this is the relationship that
denied any problems. "Nope - they have no flaws insticks!
common." she remarked. Digging deeper, Dana and ISo think about it next time you go out to meet
discovered that the liberal men she finds mostpeople. Push past your type to see who might be a
attractive have commitment issues!far better, longer lasting and happier match for you.