| In our parents' day, there was a whiff of scandal | | | | There's always time for more if you keep seeing |
| attached to the divorcee - a woman who had left | | | | each other - but you don't want to sabotage what |
| her marriage had to be some sort of a floozy, after | | | | could be a great relationship but jumping too quickly |
| all, and was considered "tainted goods." Today, | | | | into the next phase. You'll be all the more attractive |
| however, divorce is much more commonplace, and | | | | to her if you don't push. |
| not necessarily the result of some sort of scandalous | | | | 4. Wait to meet her children. |
| turmoil. After all, many couples choose to end their | | | | If she has kids, then being the new man in their |
| marriage simply because they do not love each other | | | | mother's life is a big responsibility. Wait until you're |
| any more, or because they've found themselves | | | | sure that you definitely want to be involved with her |
| bickering so much that they just cannot get along. | | | | for more than a few casual dates before you |
| If you're in your 30's or older, you're likely to find | | | | introduce yourself to her family. This will help both of |
| yourself meeting many attractive women who are | | | | you, and she'll appreciate your maturity and |
| divorced. And you'll find that, in many ways, they are | | | | consideration. |
| different from single women. They have already | | | | 5. Do not compare yourself to her ex. |
| been married at least once, which means there isn't a | | | | You may very well be better looking, be a nicer guy, |
| lot of mystery left where men are concerned. | | | | and make more money than he did, but it's not a |
| They have lived with the dirty socks left on the | | | | competition. In fact, if she harbors any warm feelings |
| floor, the milk drunk straight from the carton, and | | | | for her ex-husband, she may resent you for implying |
| the unfortunate smells that all men let loose when | | | | that he is a loser. After all, if he's such a loser, what |
| they're not worried about making a good impression. | | | | was she doing with him? Comparing yourself to her |
| And they have also, for whatever reason, seen their | | | | previous spouse is just asking for trouble. |
| marriage go down the tubes. If you are interested in | | | | 6. Make her feel safe. |
| attracting a divorced woman, here are a few simple | | | | A woman who has been divorced has had her heart |
| guidelines: | | | | broken once already, and she's probably worried that |
| 1. Be fun to be around. | | | | her next relationship will end just as badly. Be reliable, |
| A divorced woman has already been in a serious | | | | honest and kind. Make her realize that you aren't |
| relationship, and there are few things more serious | | | | going to date her and then discard her. She deserves |
| than divorce. She wants to laugh and have a good | | | | your respect and love, so treat her that way! |
| time. Chances are, her ex-husband wasn't very | | | | 7. Be prepared to be a "rebound" lover. |
| pleasant to be around towards the end of their | | | | No matter what you do right, she may not be |
| relationship - now she wants someone who'll make | | | | emotionally ready to jump into a new relationship. |
| her feel good about life. So be that guy! | | | | You may get nothing but green lights from your |
| 2. Don't dwell on the past. | | | | divorced woman, only to get the "I think we should |
| That goes for you as well as her. Talk about your | | | | just be friends" speech when you least expect it. If |
| past relationships, of course, but focus on starting a | | | | you're patient, she may still come around - but then |
| whole new, better chapter of your life. If you're | | | | again, she may not. Remind yourself that she's be |
| divorced yourself, don't talk endlessly about your | | | | burned once before, and her fear is natural. Don't |
| ex-wife. Answer her questions respectfully, then | | | | take it personally - just dust yourself off and keep |
| move on. The two of you should be looking forward | | | | on living your life to the fullest. |
| to the future, not dwelling on past mistakes. | | | | There are unique challenges to attracting a divorced |
| 3. Take the relationship slowly. | | | | woman, but with a large amount of patience and |
| You may be the first man she's grown close to since | | | | respect you may find that she's wiser, more |
| her divorce, and no matter how eager she may be | | | | grounded and better equipped for a relationship than |
| for intimacy she may not be emotionally prepared | | | | a single woman. Just remember that all women need |
| yet. Have dinner, go dancing, take in a movie or | | | | to feel appreciated, whether they've been married |
| concert, kiss her goodnight and then go home. | | | | before or not. |