| You do not need any dating advice to know that we | | | | then you have to deal with rejection which is a bitter |
| live in a time where there are more new avenues | | | | pill to swallow. Everyone wants to be accepted on |
| and opportunities available than at any other time in | | | | some level. When you open up to someone and they |
| history. | | | | say no then it can make you nervous about doing it |
| Thanks to the changing attitudes concerning the | | | | again. No is a simple word that packs a terrific punch |
| relationship between men and women, dating has | | | | that can shake anyone to the core. |
| entered a whole new realm. Factor in some of the | | | | So what's the alternative? Not to date anyone and in |
| newer innovations like internet and speed dating and | | | | the long run that's far worst. Never giving a |
| it becomes clear the possibilities seem almost endless. | | | | relationship a chance because your nerves just could |
| But times cannot change what many of us feel | | | | not stand anything unconstructive can do more |
| before, during and after a date. In spite of knowing | | | | damage than experiencing rejection. No matter how |
| the other person for quite some time, being | | | | bad the rejection, you can always move forward |
| comfortable with them in a different environment | | | | with your life. Rejection means they have missed out |
| and getting an enthusiastic yes when you ask them | | | | on the opportunity to know more about wonderful |
| for a date, it still does not stop your nerves from | | | | you. |
| giving you plenty of grief. | | | | Your date is not on a pedestal. You do not have to |
| A big part of being nervous is of course you want | | | | grovel before them in the hopes they accept you. It |
| the date to go right. Carefully planning a date and | | | | is all about give and take and realizing both of you |
| then watching it fall apart before your eyes is a | | | | are on the same level. Be confident in what you have |
| nightmare we all dread. No question if you have ever | | | | to offer the other person. If they accept, then that |
| experienced this, there is a little voice of doubt | | | | is something to build on, if not then wish them well |
| saying, "Here we go again." Another reason however | | | | and keep looking for the person that is more in tune |
| is confidence. You may not have experienced a bad | | | | to your frequency; they do exist. |
| date or this may even be your first date but you still | | | | Accept the fact that a certain amount of |
| feel shaky. For some reason it always seems like the | | | | nervousness is going to exist and in some ways can |
| equivalent of having to do a public speaking | | | | keep you focused on the task at hand. But do |
| engagement in front of a tough audience. | | | | everything in your power to make sure it does not |
| It is not to that extreme but it can feel like you are | | | | take center stage. Relax and expect that you and |
| auditioning and in a way you are. You are selling the | | | | your date will have a good time. With that mindset |
| product known as you and hope the prospective | | | | you will. |
| buyer (your date) like what they see and hear. If not | | | | |