| Well - are you ready to start dating? This may apply | | | | Friendso Environment - home etc.o Relationships |
| to whether you have been dating or are new to | | | | What you need to do is to first honestly summarise |
| dating again after a long-term relationship. "Of course | | | | where you are in all these areas. Secondly take a |
| I am", you may say, but it is surprising how many | | | | look at what you might need to do to resolve any or |
| people I talk to who say they are ready but when | | | | all of the issues that are currently outstanding. If for |
| we dig a bit deeper all kinds of dating/relationship/life | | | | instance under "friendship" you realise that the people |
| issues surface. How about the lady who said she was | | | | you mostly socialise with are only interested in going |
| ready but there was a certain man who had been | | | | to bars & getting drunk and you have had |
| around in the background for 11 years? Or the | | | | enough of this. You need to find people who want to |
| woman who likewise is ready but never has the time | | | | do the kinds of things that you would find interesting |
| even to go to the hairdressers or check her bank | | | | and satisfying. Your working life is less than satisfying, |
| statement because of the hours she works? | | | | how can you turn this round? Remember small steps |
| What gets in the way of successful dating? | | | | can make a big difference and I am not talking about |
| So much can get in the way of being ready to date | | | | doing this overnight. It is not a makeover programme |
| successfully and find a relationship. These are a few | | | | but a life programme. It's about getting more |
| of the things that are common:-o Still holding | | | | focused and into action on your own behalf. |
| emotional baggage from previous relationshipso Being | | | | Now Get Ready for Dating and Relationship |
| in the middle of legal chaoso Working such long hours | | | | Now you have a plan for handling some areas of |
| that you can't find the timeo Over -commitment to | | | | your life that need attention you can also look at |
| familyo People in your life who hold you backo Not | | | | where you are in terms of dating and relationship. |
| knowing what you really want in a relationship | | | | The old saying "success breeds success" may be |
| Wherever you may be, it is important that you give | | | | very annoying when your life does not resemble |
| yourself a dating/relationship road check. By that I | | | | anything like success. Just a pause here to note that |
| mean looking at all areas of your life so that you are | | | | success is whatever success means for you not |
| clear what you need to handle before you could | | | | what others might judge to be success. I can assure |
| possibly start getting into a relationship. This may | | | | you that when you begin to take the steps towards |
| sound trite but to be successful in relationships you | | | | becoming more successful in one area of your life |
| need to find a way to be successful in life. | | | | there are knock on effects that impact on other |
| Relationships are not an isolated part of our lives but | | | | areas. |
| a reflection of how we live our lives in general. If | | | | Without doubt you will begin to show up differently |
| your life is in balance it is much more possible that | | | | to those around you. Those friends who held you |
| you will be able to find, and build upon, a successful | | | | back or not even knowing how much you have in |
| relationship. | | | | the bank can be a thing of the past. This is about |
| Building a Life That is Ready for Relationship | | | | standing up and taking responsibility for your life so |
| I just mentioned a relationship road-check. If you are | | | | that you can take responsibility for the successful |
| going to be ready to go on the 'road' so to speak | | | | relationship that you really want. Take one step at a |
| what needs to be in place? These are some areas | | | | time making sure that all the steps are going in the |
| that I suggest you look at:-o Physical/emotional | | | | same direction and you will realise that you can get |
| healtho Work/careero Lifestyleo Moneyo Familyo | | | | your life moving on the relationship road. |