| It has happened to the best of us. People who went | | | | weekends. If your date amazingly manages to |
| out of their way to make sure the date went | | | | break thru and mention something related to their |
| smoothly have found themselves in the same | | | | own personal experience, it only serves to crank you |
| predicament. On more than a few occasions it has | | | | up a couple of more notches and send you off on |
| been the deciding issue in whether the dating | | | | another tangent. |
| relationship blossoms or flops. | | | | Few things can raise a red flag better than |
| Having good conversation is essential for not only | | | | conversation domination. It alerts your date to the |
| getting to know the other person but also | | | | fact that if they were to go forward with the |
| establishing a comfort zone. When there is a healthy | | | | relationship, they better get used to playing second |
| dose of give and take discussion between you and | | | | fiddle because life with you is going to be all about |
| your date then there is a propensity for both parties | | | | you. |
| to lighten up. Any musician, athlete or artist will tell | | | | Instead let them know they are an equal partner on |
| you their best work happens when they are relaxed. | | | | this date. You've got good conversations skills but |
| It's no different for dating. | | | | you may impress them even more if you spend the |
| It's not that you want or need to fill every silent | | | | same amount of time listening. If the comfort zone |
| moment with chatter. Indeed once you establish that | | | | you established has gotten your date to open up |
| conversation comfort zone than the pauses are no | | | | about themselves, then do them and yourself a |
| longer awkward. In fact it's more than okay to take | | | | favor by sharing some of that spotlight. This tells |
| a breather and gather your thoughts. Or just enjoy | | | | your date that it is not all about you and that you |
| the ambience and good vibes you both are sharing. | | | | find them fascinating as well. |
| All of this starts with good chatter between the two | | | | It also comes down to restraint. Not sharing so much |
| of you. What you must be on guard against is that | | | | of your life's history the first few dates lends you an |
| you do not get too carried away. In some circles it's | | | | air of mystery. That doesn't mean ducking questions |
| known as sharing too much information; commonly | | | | or exaggerating your answers. It does mean |
| referred to as hogging the conversation. | | | | however saving some of that good information for |
| It's an easy trap to fall into. Both of you have come | | | | another time. When you share so much of yourself |
| armed with things to discuss; current events, what | | | | at one sitting, your date may see no reason to go |
| was TV or how was you day at work. The | | | | any further since in their eyes they basically know all |
| discussion starts to flow and it seems like it's only a | | | | they need to know about you. |
| matter of time before it goes to the next level. | | | | If you are excited about someone it's easy to get |
| But suddenly it's become a one person show. Yours. | | | | carried away. You like them and you are showing |
| You talk and talk and keep talking to the point there | | | | trust by sharing different aspects of your life. Just |
| is no way your date can get a word in edgewise. | | | | keep in mind that it is a two way street. Focus on a |
| You remember your childhood just like it was | | | | balanced amount of give and take and let your life's |
| yesterday. The only problem is you then proceed to | | | | history (and your date's) naturally unfold as the |
| explain in long drawn out detail what you were doing | | | | relationship grows. |
| everyday between the ages 14 and 17 including | | | | |