| I. Encourage Growth and Don't Be Needy or Jealous | | | | and letting things go. |
| Here's where literally ALL Long Distance Relationships | | | | III. Learn how to Foreshadow |
| fail. When the premise of it is "keeping things the | | | | I've been in a couple long distance relationships, and I |
| SAME between us" then it's pretty much guaranteed | | | | have to say this ONE move is what kept things |
| things won't last. Remember that once you separate | | | | exciting between me and her while we were apart. |
| into two different worlds, just like any human being, | | | | Foreshadowing is a hallmark technique in our system |
| there will be a desire to meet more people, try out | | | | wherein you pace her imagination into the future by |
| new things, and just basically settle in to this new | | | | painting a picture of what would happen when you |
| place. | | | | see each other. Here are some examples: |
| So, that's exactly what you want to encourage, and | | | | "when we see each other... we're going to go on a |
| not the opposite. If you can show your partner that | | | | trip to Costa Rica, and sip on the best Mai Tai's while |
| you actually want them to grow as a person | | | | watching the Sun set" |
| wherever they're at, it's a true show of love and | | | | "the moment you finish your schooling, we're going |
| care and crushes all neediness. Now take not that | | | | to sky dive like what you've always wanted." |
| you have to do this too. You don't want the other | | | | Foreshadow every time you're on the phone, or on |
| person having a fun time with a lot of new friends | | | | email, or on webcam. Again, since you won't get to |
| and you're just at home in Missouri moping around. | | | | see her, might as well lead her mind and make her |
| II. Don't be Nit Picky on Situations | | | | look forward to you and her getting together again in |
| Guys and gals: you are in another area code, or heck | | | | the future. I had a student who did this to a very |
| in some cases another country. You can't be imposing | | | | attractive woman in California, and by the end of the |
| too many relationship rules in this case. | | | | year, she was with him in Krakow, Poland spending |
| Learn how to be "okay" with different things. If she | | | | Christmas as his new girlfriend, and he was even nice |
| forgets to call, eh... let it go. She was probably busy. | | | | enough to send me a photo of them. This is a well |
| If she fails to send you those photos she promised | | | | done example of him foreshadowing the future while |
| at 10 pm.. eh... let it go. | | | | they were oceans apart. |
| Remember that suffocation is what kills a long | | | | Use these three tips and you can make your Long |
| distance relationship. It's all about a balance of control | | | | Distance Relationship exciting, fun, and drama-free. |