| Many of my clients come to their coaching session, | | | | for you. |
| uttering this statement about a recent dating | | | | So - here's a crucial question for you. Of all the men |
| disappointment: "But we had such a great connection! | | | | you've had that hot chemistry with, the connection |
| why didn't things work out?" Yup, you know what | | | | that goes directly and deeply into your heart like no |
| that's like - when you feel like you both really seem | | | | other, how many of those relationships have worked |
| to "GET" each other. You have a lot of eye contact | | | | out long-term? |
| and talk like you've known each other forever. You | | | | Think back now carefully. Be honest. My bet is, if you |
| were having a great time and you KNOW he was | | | | had instant chemistry or connection, it dissipated as |
| too. | | | | fast as it appeared. Or, if you had that type of |
| So why didn't he call? Why no second or third date? | | | | relationship more long-term, it was a drama-ridden, |
| What went wrong? How could such a great | | | | rocky road. Am I right? Please let me know if I'm |
| connection just evaporate? | | | | not. |
| First of all, most women immediately assume they | | | | Now I'm not saying you can't be very attracted to |
| did something wrong. I'm happy to report that | | | | the right man for you - of course you need to find |
| usually, that's totally not true. Often the dropped ball | | | | him attractive. And, you need to feel like you can |
| and lack of call have little, if anything to do with you. | | | | talk to and understand each other deeply. Just keep |
| Maybe your guy was dating several women, had to | | | | in mind when you meet a man who you feel this |
| go out of town, got preoccupied with work, or | | | | way about, please don't think he automatically feels |
| wasn't really available to date you anyway. But it | | | | the same. It's quite possible that he doesn't. |
| might have seemed like a good idea to him n that | | | | Be smart. When you feel yourself hopping on board |
| moment when he was enjoying your company. | | | | the connection/chemistry express - remember YOU |
| Second, this connection thing is most likely more of a | | | | ARE RIDING IN THAT CAR ALONE. Don't put all your |
| woman's concern than a man's. Women place a | | | | emotions and hope on that ride because it might not |
| tremendous amount of importance on this | | | | deliver the romance value you anticipate. When you |
| connection. You've got to have it with a man, and | | | | become aware of this situation, it's time to distract |
| when you do - you start believing it means | | | | yourself to keep from building it up in your mind. |
| something to HIM too. As it having that connection is | | | | Don't let your imagination create a far-reaching future |
| a guarantee to a future together because who could | | | | relationship without the hard evidence only time can |
| let that go? | | | | provide. |
| Who could walk away from that feeling of | | | | Instead, go about your business and do what you |
| connection? Men can. And they do it all the time. | | | | can to not over-think the relationship. Minimize your |
| What does this connection really mean? Well, its' a lot | | | | potential disappointment and keep both feet on the |
| like chemistry. Many women tell me they have to | | | | ground. And, if by chance, time proves out that your |
| have that sizzling, on fire, tingling-all-over chemistry or | | | | connection is mutual and your man demonstrates |
| they just aren't interested. Men without that | | | | consistency and frequency, then you can start |
| chemistry or connection get passed over easily. | | | | relaxing slowly into your budding new relationship. |
| Women just walk away - because he doesn't do it | | | | |