| Did you ever see a man in the grocery line who you | | | | anything you do manage to come up with any way. |
| wanted to talk to? Maybe he was in the line at the | | | | I'll give you a few starters so that you can get the |
| bank or even at a friend's party. You struggle to | | | | idea: |
| come up with something to say. It feels like you can | | | | - What a beautiful day! |
| hear the clock ticking while you pray that your brain | | | | - I love this time of year |
| will finally kick in and come up with a clever question. | | | | - Doesn't the air smell good today? |
| Well, one thing I can tell you is that it doesn't have | | | | - The sky is really blue today |
| to be hard at all. In fact it can be amazingly simple | | | | - Are you a Steelers fan? Did you see the game last |
| and easy. | | | | night? |
| Here's what happened to me this week. I was at the | | | | - What a nice shirt |
| gas station standing by the pump waiting for it to | | | | - I'm so glad it's Friday |
| register so I could fill my tank. On the other side of | | | | You could come up with a few of these right? Keep |
| the pump was a man in his 40's, who poked his head | | | | a few in your mental back pocket so when you |
| between the pumps from the other side, smiled and | | | | come in contact with men, you'll have something to |
| brightly said, "hello." Yeah, I was a little surprised. Not | | | | say without hanging back. You must strike while the |
| the usual way things go at the gas pump. But I said | | | | iron is hot so to speak. Hesitating will usually mean he |
| hello and smiled back. | | | | got away before you uttered a syllable. |
| Mr. Gas then moved past the pump to be in plain | | | | Most importantly, don't pressure yourself into thinking |
| view. He smiled again and said, "Can you believe it's | | | | this will turn into something. It's just flirty |
| October 1st already? I just heard on the radio how | | | | conversation and great practice. The more you do it, |
| many days it is until Christmas!" | | | | the more comfortable you'll get with the process. |
| As you can see, this is not rocket science, but it did | | | | And it can actually be fun! |
| work. I chatted with him briefly. It was a harmless, | | | | I do know a man who met his wife in the grocery |
| friendly exchange. Perhaps had I shown more | | | | store this way. She asked him to reach something on |
| interest, he might have pursued me further, but I'm | | | | a top shelf for her. (One of my favorite tricks since |
| not available. | | | | I'm shy of 5 feet!) Now they've been married for |
| The simplest comment or question about nothing | | | | more than 20 years. |
| much at all is the best way to break the ice. Don't' | | | | Just start talking to people. Friendly people who are |
| strain your brain rummaging around for a super | | | | comfortable with themselves are very attractive and |
| funny, clever line. forget that. Too much pressure. | | | | approachable. Make it easy for men and give it a |
| And your inner critic will most likely shoot down | | | | whirl. |