Christian Dating Advice - Don't Despair at the End of a Christian Relationship

Not all Christian relationships are meant to last. Just asAnd you don't have to hope that you are loved like
in the secular world, dating someone doesn't meanyou do in relationships. You can know that you are
you will ultimately marry them; Christians shouldn'tloved because God's Word tells you so and you trust
expect their first, second or even more relationshipsin this truth by faith. It is a daily reality in you life and
to lead to a lifelong commitment. Here is somein your heart.
Christian dating advice for those of you leaving aYou do not have to walk through life with your heart
relationship and what to do next.hanging out just waiting to be broken and discarded.
It is difficult to deal with the emotions that follow theIf you do you wind up as a wounded soul because
end of a Christian relationship. You feel rejected andwe live in an imperfect world. Instead, place your
disappointed that you have not found your perfectheart in the care of Christ and He will help you
mate. Do not forget that the end of a relationshipovercome every disappointment, even the end of
does not end God's love for you.your relationship.
Just because your Christian dating relationship hasGod's grace and mercy can help your broken heart
ended, it does not define you as unlovable. You areheal when your relationship ends and help you learn
simply not loved by one person. You cannot allowto love again if you accept His help. This is part of
this to define who you are, how you feel, and whatthe blessings outlined in Ephesians. We can choose to
your life is worth. You need to put this oneaccept His blessings or we can reject them and
relationship behind you and go forward withchoose to wallow in our grief. This would be as
something that has far more lasting value.impractical as owning a nice new warm coat and
As a Christian you can move forward with yourchoosing to freeze to death because you will not
relationship with Christ. When you put your trust inwear it.
him you are welcomed into a global family ofAs a Christian you will still suffer disappointment at
believers, a family with Christ as the head. Not beingthe end of a relationship. Your faith is not a barrier
part of a Christian relationship anymore does notagainst all of life's bumps and bruises. You should
change your status in His family. Ephesians 1 tells usremember, however, that as a child of God, these
that we are blessed 'with all spiritual blessings inbumps are temporary. You can either allow them to
heavenly places in Christ.' It goes on to say that wepull you into a pit of despair or you can lean on Him
were chosen 'before the foundation of the world.'for a season and then let Him lead you to a new
Understand this and embrace it. You were chosen toChristian dating relationship. It's His will that you not
be loved by God. No Christian dating relationship canonly have life, but 'have life more abundantly'.
compare to this. You do not have to earn this love.As a Christian single, you do not have to crumble into
In fact, there is nothing you can do to earn this love.a heap of rejection and despair when your
And this love is not the shallow emotion that existedrelationship ends. You can instead lean on God to
in your relationship. This love is the all encompassing,support you in your time of grief and lead you to the
Agape love experienced only in a personal relationshipperson He has chosen for you.
with Christ Jesus.